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sanativemagazine:

Sanative Magazine’s 50 alternatives to self harm ordered by mood.
It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm. People can experience a wide variety of moods when the urge to self harm arises, although this list only deals with a few moods I hope that it is comprehensive and you will be able to understand that if you are feeling jealous you may like to try out the sad suggestions (if you are feeling particularly down), or the angry ones (if you are feeling particularly riled up and filled with frustrated energy).
It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Different emotional states often respond best to emotion specific responses, which is why lists like these can help. Keep any ideas that you are drawn to written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you (some things won’t work, and often nothing will work 100% of the time, but it is important to keep working at it.)
As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.
Here are a list of some distractions & self soothing ideas based on mood. Some of these activities could overlap into another mood, so don’t feel like they’re set in stone - use whatever you think would be helpful!SAD1. Cry it out.2. Watch a ridiculous comedy. 3. Take a warm shower4. Listen to inspiring, upbeat music.5. Spend time with a pet.6. Organise your room7. Phone a friend or even visit them8. Read a trashy magazine9. Make a list of quotes and lyrics that inspire you10. Make a list of places you’d like to visit, or things you’d like to do within your lifetime.11. Write how you’re feeling in a journal12. Go for a long and peaceful walk13. Bake or cook a favourite dish14. Go to the movie theatre and watch the next movie that comes on (of course attempting to ensure that it will be trigger free)15. Watch silly daytime television.16. Play a video game or a board game.17. Write letters to your best friends and send them if you wish to.18. Start drawing, or a create a collage of how you’re feeling - don’t worry about how it looks, no one has to see it.19. Cuddle a soft toy
ANXIOUS20. Place a blanket in the dryer and wrap it around yourself21. Make a cup of tea/coffee and attempt to focus mindfully on your actions whilst preparing and drinking the tea.22. Look up and learn breathing techniques and mindfulness strategies, if you see a health professional try talking to them about these strategies and work out a plan of how to practice these techniques so that you’ll eventually be able to successfully use them when your urges seem unmanageable.23. Run yourself a warm bath and fill it with aromatherapy oils.24. Count by 9’s25. Paint your nails26. Colour in a mandala27. If you are religious, pray or meditate.28. Take photographs of something that catches your eye. Upload it somewhere like Instagram.29. Collect a list of silly websites! For example30. Look up funny cats and dogs on Youtube. Trust me. It’s endless and brilliant.31. Fill in a CBT ABC worksheet or something similar. You can ask your therapist for something of the sort. Here is a good resource, it contains thought records as well. You can even draw up your own as these are arguably not the most aesthetically pleasing worksheets.http://www.psychologytools.org/download-therapy-worksheets.html32. Watch a candle burn.33. FingerpaintANGRY34. Dance to ridiculous music35. Scream out to music that expresses how you feel36. Scream into a pillow37. Punch a pile of pillows 38. Invest in a punching bag. Punch the absolute shit out of it.39. Write a letter to someone you’re mad - swear at them, scream at them, get it ALL out, and and tear it up40. Eat a lemon, sour loly, a chili - anything that will focus on your senses without hurting you.41. Hold ice cubes in your hand, rub them under your knees, on the heels of your feet.42. Watch a film that makes you laugh.43. Take your dog for a walk44. Wash the dishes45. Go for a run/sprint46. Write your thoughts on your body in red pen.47. Hit soft toys/pillow against the wall repetitively.48. Have a cold shower. With your clothes on if need be. If you get out of the shower and your urges/anger comes back, get in the shower again.ALL:49. CALL A HELP LINE OR THERAPIST IF YOU ARE IN DANGER OR ARE FEELING UNSAFELASTLY:50. Remember that not every distraction will work and it is still important to consider why you are self harming to begin with. According to DBT therapy distractions are not a CURE for self harm, rather they are a technique to be used whilst the urges are too severe to work on. Aftere the urge has subsided it is important to SPEAK TO SOMEONE about how you are feeling. It is 34239534973657864% recommended that you find a health professional you trust to talk through these things with.
I repeat: NOT EVERY DISTRACTION WILL WORK. And those that do may not help every time. A slip up, or a 100, do not make you a “failure” of recovery. The fact that you are actively trying to get help and find other ways of coping is AMAZING. Try (and try and try) not to be hard on yourself!It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm.It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Keep these ideas written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you.As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.

sanativemagazine:

Sanative Magazine’s 50 alternatives to self harm ordered by mood.

It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm. People can experience a wide variety of moods when the urge to self harm arises, although this list only deals with a few moods I hope that it is comprehensive and you will be able to understand that if you are feeling jealous you may like to try out the sad suggestions (if you are feeling particularly down), or the angry ones (if you are feeling particularly riled up and filled with frustrated energy).

It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Different emotional states often respond best to emotion specific responses, which is why lists like these can help. Keep any ideas that you are drawn to written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you (some things won’t work, and often nothing will work 100% of the time, but it is important to keep working at it.)

As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.

Here are a list of some distractions & self soothing ideas based on mood. Some of these activities could overlap into another mood, so don’t feel like they’re set in stone - use whatever you think would be helpful!

SAD
1. Cry it out.
2. Watch a ridiculous comedy. 
3. Take a warm shower
4. Listen to inspiring, upbeat music.
5. Spend time with a pet.
6. Organise your room
7. Phone a friend or even visit them
8. Read a trashy magazine
9. Make a list of quotes and lyrics that inspire you
10. Make a list of places you’d like to visit, or things you’d like to do within your lifetime.
11. Write how you’re feeling in a journal
12. Go for a long and peaceful walk
13. Bake or cook a favourite dish
14. Go to the movie theatre and watch the next movie that comes on (of course attempting to ensure that it will be trigger free)
15. Watch silly daytime television.
16. Play a video game or a board game.
17. Write letters to your best friends and send them if you wish to.
18. Start drawing, or a create a collage of how you’re feeling - don’t worry about how it looks, no one has to see it.
19. Cuddle a soft toy

ANXIOUS
20. Place a blanket in the dryer and wrap it around yourself
21. Make a cup of tea/coffee and attempt to focus mindfully on your actions whilst preparing and drinking the tea.
22. Look up and learn breathing techniques and mindfulness strategies, if you see a health professional try talking to them about these strategies and work out a plan of how to practice these techniques so that you’ll eventually be able to successfully use them when your urges seem unmanageable.
23. Run yourself a warm bath and fill it with aromatherapy oils.
24. Count by 9’s
25. Paint your nails
26. Colour in a mandala
27. If you are religious, pray or meditate.
28. Take photographs of something that catches your eye. Upload it somewhere like Instagram.
29. Collect a list of silly websites! For example
30. Look up funny cats and dogs on Youtube. Trust me. It’s endless and brilliant.
31. Fill in a CBT ABC worksheet or something similar. You can ask your therapist for something of the sort. Here is a good resource, it contains thought records as well. You can even draw up your own as these are arguably not the most aesthetically pleasing worksheets.
http://www.psychologytools.org/download-therapy-worksheets.html
32. Watch a candle burn.
33. Fingerpaint

ANGRY
34. Dance to ridiculous music
35. Scream out to music that expresses how you feel
36. Scream into a pillow
37. Punch a pile of pillows 
38. Invest in a punching bag. Punch the absolute shit out of it.
39. Write a letter to someone you’re mad - swear at them, scream at them, get it ALL out, and and tear it up
40. Eat a lemon, sour loly, a chili - anything that will focus on your senses without hurting you.
41. Hold ice cubes in your hand, rub them under your knees, on the heels of your feet.
42. Watch a film that makes you laugh.
43. Take your dog for a walk
44. Wash the dishes
45. Go for a run/sprint
46. Write your thoughts on your body in red pen.
47. Hit soft toys/pillow against the wall repetitively.
48. Have a cold shower. With your clothes on if need be. If you get out of the shower and your urges/anger comes back, get in the shower again.

ALL:
49. CALL A HELP LINE OR THERAPIST IF YOU ARE IN DANGER OR ARE FEELING UNSAFE

LASTLY:
50. Remember that not every distraction will work and it is still important to consider why you are self harming to begin with. According to DBT therapy distractions are not a CURE for self harm, rather they are a technique to be used whilst the urges are too severe to work on. Aftere the urge has subsided it is important to SPEAK TO SOMEONE about how you are feeling. It is 34239534973657864% recommended that you find a health professional you trust to talk through these things with.

I repeat: NOT EVERY DISTRACTION WILL WORK. And those that do may not help every time. A slip up, or a 100, do not make you a “failure” of recovery. The fact that you are actively trying to get help and find other ways of coping is AMAZING. Try (and try and try) not to be hard on yourself!It is important in many peoples recovery journey to have a management plan when working through self harm.
It is good to have a few ideas that you would be willing to try in mind before the urge becomes too much to bare. Keep these ideas written down and try them next time you are feeling as if you want to self harm. These distraction and self soothing lists will be in constant revision as you find out what works for you.
As with any mental health concern I recommend getting the assistance of a professional to work alongside you in this journey.


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candyjanney:

A few of my 65 plus pages of my Hunters journal. Still have a LOT to do. Kinda of a mish mash inspired by the show Supernatural and the games World of Darkness and Changeling among other things. I wanted to make a cool unique book just for me of a journal of a woman who steps into the world of the supernatural. I’ve taken photos of a few of the pages I like. I’ve made lots of props so far. Business cards, newspaper articles, etc etc. It’s been a lot of fun researching old stories and putting my own spin on things. =)

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kforshort:

spacetwinks:

[YOU HAVE BEEN GRACED WITH POWER OF CREATION IN THIS WORLD OF FANTASY AND MAGIC, BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. WHAT WILL YOUR CHARACTER BE?]

Human Male, Warrior

[ARE YOU SERIOUS?]

Yes

[YOU BORING PIECE OF SHIT]

[FINE WHATEVER. NOW DESIGN YOUR CHARACTER.]

White, Thin But Fit Able Body

[I REFUSE TO BELIEVE THIS IS HAPPENING]

With a Scruffy Beard

[FUCK YOU]

(via phoenixhobbit)

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rdf2014:

youcantcancelquidditch:

DOES ANYONE REMEMBER THE EPISODE WITH THE ANDROGYNOUS ALIEN WHO WAS ALLOWED TO CHOOSE ITS GENDER WHEN IT CAME OF AGE?
ALL THE BOYS WANTED IT TO BECOME A BOY ALIEN, AND ALL THE GIRLS WANTED IT TO BECOME A GIRL ALIEN, BUT THEN THEY LEARNED THAT THEY WERE BEING HURTFUL BY PRESSURING, SO THEY DECIDED TO ACCEPT THE ALIEN’S DECISION NO MATTER WHAT, BECAUSE IT WASN’T THEIR CHOICE, AND IN THE END THE ALIEN DIDN’T TELL ANYONE? BECAUSE IT WASN’T ANYONE’S BUSINESS? 
AND IT WAS ALL PRETTY MUCH THE MOST GROUNDBREAKING NEWS TO ME AS A CHILD?

this show was my childhood
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FIHBFdEcIs

rdf2014:

youcantcancelquidditch:

DOES ANYONE REMEMBER THE EPISODE WITH THE ANDROGYNOUS ALIEN WHO WAS ALLOWED TO CHOOSE ITS GENDER WHEN IT CAME OF AGE?

ALL THE BOYS WANTED IT TO BECOME A BOY ALIEN, AND ALL THE GIRLS WANTED IT TO BECOME A GIRL ALIEN, BUT THEN THEY LEARNED THAT THEY WERE BEING HURTFUL BY PRESSURING, SO THEY DECIDED TO ACCEPT THE ALIEN’S DECISION NO MATTER WHAT, BECAUSE IT WASN’T THEIR CHOICE, AND IN THE END THE ALIEN DIDN’T TELL ANYONE? BECAUSE IT WASN’T ANYONE’S BUSINESS? 

AND IT WAS ALL PRETTY MUCH THE MOST GROUNDBREAKING NEWS TO ME AS A CHILD?

this show was my childhood

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FIHBFdEcIs

(Source: , via transawareness)

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thenerdybrit:

whiskeyfortheway:

#Viktor was obviously deeply in love with her #just remember the fact that he took her to prom #even knowing that he could’ve choose any other girl #remember how he forgot about everyone and danced with her all night #remember how he looked at her while saying ‘write to me, please’ #remember how, a few years later #on Fleur’s wedding #he danced with her one more time #probably being conscient that her heart already belonged to Ron #this is why I love Viktor Krum so much #he just enjoyed being with Hermione #and didn’t care about the future #mostly, because she wasn’t going to be a part of his.

(kneelb4todd)

reblogging because krum is extremely underrated

(Source: simplypotterheads, via destielhiseyesopened)

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ethiopienne:

Support Trans Women of Color Collective

TWOCC was established almost one year ago after the brutal murder of Islan Nettles, a black trans woman in New York City. Since then we have brought visibility to this case and uplifted the narratives of struggle and resilience from our communities. From our multiple appearances at conferences, to our various talks, and our numerous accountability sessions we have created a new space for trans women of color leadership in the movement.We are an organizing collective, NOT a registered non-profit. We rely on grassroots fundraising to sustain the work. Trans women of color have historically — and continue to — put our bodies on the line for justice. The amount of unpaid emotional, physical, and psychological labor we do for our movements is astronomical. We are tired of the lip service that our allies give to trans women of color issues. We believe that the role of allies in our movement is to fund us so that we can do the work for ourselves! This is a fundraising campaign lead by allies to support our work. We need YOUR change, to make our own!

ethiopienne:

Support Trans Women of Color Collective

TWOCC was established almost one year ago after the brutal murder of Islan Nettles, a black trans woman in New York City. Since then we have brought visibility to this case and uplifted the narratives of struggle and resilience from our communities. From our multiple appearances at conferences, to our various talks, and our numerous accountability sessions we have created a new space for trans women of color leadership in the movement.

We are an organizing collective, NOT a registered non-profit. We rely on grassroots fundraising to sustain the work. Trans women of color have historically — and continue to — put our bodies on the line for justice. The amount of unpaid emotional, physical, and psychological labor we do for our movements is astronomical. We are tired of the lip service that our allies give to trans women of color issues. We believe that the role of allies in our movement is to fund us so that we can do the work for ourselves! This is a fundraising campaign lead by allies to support our work. We need YOUR change, to make our own!